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| At the beginning of a relationship, much of what attracts us is what we've projected onto the other person. It's similar to looking into a mirror— we see our unconscious reflected back to us. |
| As the relationship progresses, two things happen: |
| We begin to see more of the real person beneath the projection (with a feeling of not knowing the other person at all). |
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| We try to change that person to conform to our expectations and to improve on this imperfect reflection. |
| During this time, your partner has also been projecting onto you and is also feeling that they don’t really know you and may be trying to change you. This can take days, weeks, or years. |
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