counseling
But the thought of going to a counselor can also cause anxiety. Usually we try to “fix
what’s broken” ourselves. We may ask friends for help. If that works, great. But there
are times when we need professional, objective, outside help.
Why see a counselor?
That first contact is important.
What can you expect from a counselor?
What does the counselor expect from you?
What should you tell a counselor?
The connection between client and counselor is dynamic. With the right match you will
experience, perhaps for the first time, unconditional acceptance as a unique human being.
You will find new ways to solve your problems, improve your interactions with others,
and explore the future with confidence. You can learn to feel your feelings, employ
your logic, and trust your intuition. You will be validated and challenged.
In the process, you may also learn to sidestep the
locomotives and avoid the jaws of the alligators.
A client once said to me, I’ve seen the light at the end of the tunnel.  It’s on
the front of a big locomotive!
 Life can be like that.  If it’s not a locomotive
rushing at us, we may find ourselves knee deep in a swamp full of alligators.
A goal of counseling is to help find a safe path through those obstacles.